Regain lost confidence and get the life you deserve – you can do it!

“Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again”……easier said than done?!

We’ve all heard these words at some time or another, usually from well meaning individuals who want to help us feel better. It is a wonderfully positive approach to life’s negative experiences but as we all know it’s not that easy, particularly when you are experiencing the trauma of divorce or long term relationship break up. Let’s not under estimate the level of trauma involved here, divorce is rated as second only to the death of a spouse in the Hanson Scale of Stress resistance and for anyone who has passed through this experience of separation from a long term partner they will know only too well the devastation and havoc this process brings into our lives.

For many it is a ‘forced’ change in their life whereby their partner may have taken the first steps towards the break up. This ‘forced’ change brings about feelings of anger and resentment as there life spirals out of control. We experience a great sense of loss (clients often refer to divorce as “like a bereavement”) and can be left with a sense of being in a ‘no man’s land’ not knowing which direction to take. As we add to that, feelings of self doubt, “if only I’d behaved differently, then may be it wouldn’t have happened” our self confidence plummets to an all time low. For others, who may know it’s the right decision; it is none the less painful as many are left with feelings of guilt and fear for future relationships.

So it’s time to take a new look at ourselves and find a new yard stick by which to measure our future progress.

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